Natasha Styles

Sex is overrated

proudvaginaowner:

so the previous youtube video really got me thinking. it started some interesting conversations amongst my friends, and it made me wonder… how important is sex to you?

i think that sex is overrated, and as soon as I say this everyone in the world wants to jump at me and say - “it’s because you haven’t have good sex yet…”. I disagree.

My personal opinion is that sex tends to be more pleasurable for men than it is for women. Also, sex rarely keeps a relationship going. You might have that physical connection but suck in every other area, and a man rarely just stays around solely for the sex. I mean it’s easy for a guy to find a hoe to mess with so why stay with a nagging ass girl?

I know a lot of my male as well as my female friends disagree with me, but I rather find a guy who I can vibe out with. Someone who has crazy good chemistry with me personality wise rather than how great our sexual chemistry is. Of course, I rather have both but if I had to choose I would definitely choose a lot of other stuff over sex.

So how important is sex to you within a relationship?

here are my priceless and totally original thoughts (LOL!):

i’ve never understood the statement “sex is overrated”. it doesn’t make sense. it’s overrated in comparison to what? i’ve always thought when someone says “________________ is overrated”, they really don’t know what they’re talking about. sorry, PVO. i’ve got love for you and your reasons are your own but boo to “sex is overrated”.

regarding the idea that sex is more pleasurable for men than it is for women — i call bullshit on that one big time. for the sake of argument, let’s say we’re talking about a heterosexual relationship where sex is involved. if the sex isn’t good for a woman, there are two issues: either he is doing something wrong because he’s self-centered and only cares about his own nut OR she doesn’t know what she likes and hasn’t told him what to do. either way, both people are wrong. women are not supposed to just lie there like a starfish and take it — we’re supposed to enjoy it, as well. we’re the ones who should be more selective about what dick goes in us, you know? why not get something out of sex? where is it said we aren’t supposed to like it? the only woman who doesn’t like sex is the one who is getting paid for it — hookers don’t hook for the love of sex, they hook to get dollar bills.

//sidebar — women are the ones who have an organ that specifically has only one function: to throb and throb and throb and throb and feel good and be made to throb and huh huh huh oh yeah. men don’t. god loves us more and that is proof. think of the clitoris as a pre-emptive apology for the shit god KNEW we’d be going through as women.

sex is important in a relationship. why think a physical expression of love isn’t important? of course it is. it’s as important as a mental, emotional and spiritual connection. i’d love to hear from someone why it’s not. if you’re not having sex with the person you love, then you two are friends, you’re not a couple, you’re not in a relationship. sex changes the dynamic between two people. it’s not meant to keep a relationship together; it’s the cherry on top of the icing on the cake and you know what? that’s okay. one night stands are okay, daily sex with the one who loves you best is okay. the only time it’s not okay is when someone says no and the other someone keeps on going.

is sex important in my own relationship? it’s not how i’m “keeping” my fella, if that is what is being intimated.

there’s a waitress i work with — she is single BY CHOICE. she’s been burned hardcore in the past and is very bitter, very sad and very angry. she doesn’t even work herself out (it shows — she is a giant fucking ball of stress). if she could just get someone to make her come, maybe she’d lighten the fuck up for a hot minute. i don’t believe that humans are meant to deny themselves the simple pleasures of life, sex included, with a partner or without. i don’t believe anyone who thinks they are above the need/desire for sex. that doesn’t lead to enlightenment, it leads to depression. you can only lie to yourself for so long before something goes haywire. look at Catholic priests if you don’t believe me.